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Post by rhyan on Jan 26, 2008 22:58:53 GMT -5
Okay. So, my friend, let's call her Jaimie. Me and some of my other friends are really worried about her. Maybe you guys have been through this and can help me. Okay, so let's be blunt. She thinks she's fat. Which she is NOT. She's just like every other teenage girl, I mean like, she's just not fat. I've noticed it more now, she doesn't eat. At first I thought she was kidding, but some days she does go without eating. I mean I don't each lunch at school, but I eat when I get home, but I don't think Jaimie does. She spent the night at my house the other night, and I swear she didn't eat like anything the two days she was here. I'm like really worried that she's starving herself, but I don't know how to confront her without her pushing me away, she tends to do that. I just don't want her to become one of those girls that see themselves different then the mirror does, and I don't want her to stop eating, and have it come and kick her in the ass in the end. I'm not sure how to tell her that she needs to eat if she does care about herself, but I just don't want to sound too, um, I dunno, like I'm stessing the fact. I just want to help her help herself. |
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Post by Troy Masters on Jan 27, 2008 22:26:28 GMT -5
Wow, this'll sound wierd coming from Troy's account, but ... xD
I'm not really sure what to do in this situation, but I have some ideas [[ thank you, my addiction to reading teen novels? o.O ]]
As well, the only experience I've had in this was me joking around with a friend, but ...
I'd take the whole 'helping her' thing a bit slow, like not so slow that she'll starve herself before you get to do anything, but slow enough so it's not like suddenly you're shoving cookies down her throat or something [[ someone randomly threatened to do that to me once, actually >.> I have no idea why, I eat like a horse xD ]]
What I would do, is casually offer her something to eat sometime, like ice cream while you're at the mall, or an apple during school or something. Don't mention anything about you being full, that might throw in a bit of un-comfort-ness, but just offer. It's not really something to HELP persay, but it should help you understand whether or not she's starving herself.
Ooh, you could bake//buy some type of food you KNOW she likes and bring in a bunch for your friends one day? o.O Offer her some by herself or even around a larger group of friends; don't say you made the entire thing specifically for her, just say your family had extra or something and you thought to let your friends at it?
xD I honestly don't know, but that's something I'd do for starters, just to make sure she's not starving herself. If she is, confront her with it in a friendly way. Pull her aside and make sure no one can over-hear. Don't address the problem directly, but ask her if she's feeling okay--ask if she's sick or something--kindly and truely point out that you're worried about her, since you noticed she hasn't been eating that much in general.
If all else fails, thwack her on the forehead, tell her there's no way in hell she's fat and tell her she could've had a v8
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good luck with this, if I think of something more, I'll post it, promise <3 |
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Post by rhyan on Jan 27, 2008 22:53:29 GMT -5
Thanks for the advice, Katie. Yeah, I didn't want to seem like I was coming on too strong, then she'll rebel against me and completely cut herself off from all food. [] But just like at lunchtime, I'll buy something, and offer her some, but I won't like be all, "NO YOU MUST EAT OR I'LL KILL JOO!" I think that's coming on a little too strong. xD Yeah, I never really had to deal with this before, but I guess that's the joy of Jr. High. Oh boy, I can't wait till high school. >.<
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Post by Troy Masters on Jan 28, 2008 5:48:42 GMT -5
^.^ no problem
ah, the joys of high school drama >.>
you'll see it throughout life, according to Bowling For Soup
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Post by Xander Olivera on Jan 28, 2008 14:57:55 GMT -5
my group of friends actually went through all of the problems you could imagine in middle school. So now that we're in high school it seems like we're all over them and just breeze by without a second thought. I did go through something like what you're going through too. My friends and I didn't quite handle it very well. She ended up getting extremely mad at us and hating us for like months. She wouldn't talk to us and it took forever for us to get through to her that she wasn't fat. She still doesn't eat a normal amount, but she is eating. So I would suggest being there to support her and make her realize that she has friends that would do anything for her. Be careful how you go about it though. You might end up in the same situation as I did.
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Post by Relm Grant on Jan 28, 2008 15:04:07 GMT -5
*Finally read over this topic*
My friends shoved me in a therapy group because they thought i was anorexic a while back. *gigglesnort*
Gosh..Those were the days....
After they finally cracked and admitted to telling our teachers what they thought was going on, i laughed and made them feel so bad because they were wrong.
They have felt bad ever since. The fact was i just wasn't hungry and they took that the wrong way. Oh..right..this was of no help, i just felt like sharing...xD |
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